This guy asked me out via private facebook message. After looking through every unhidden image of him I could find (without friending him obviously), I decided I wasn’t into it. His message to me was quite charming and nice, so I didn’t want to be rude and not write him back – but how you say to a guy, “I’m flattered but I’m not sexually attracted to your facebook profile picture?” … You don’t.
It’s very rare these days to have someone who likes you come right out and say it. “Hello, my name is Jake. It’s so nice to meet you. I’d love to buy you a drink sometime and perhaps make-out afterwards.” Oh, well, hello there Jake. Lovely to meet you as well.
It really is that simple. If what you want is to go on a date with her, then just ask. Don’t pretend you need her help with something as an excuse to spend time with her, and don’t try to get in the “friend zone” first because it’s almost impossible to get out.
Now let’s be honest. Chances are if you ask her out she’s going to say no. If you thought she’d say yes then you wouldn’t have been so scared to ask her out in the first place. But by copping out and trying to win her over through your ingenuine friendship, you’ve made things awkward. Now when you reach out to her with your “friendly,” “random,” and “totally off the cuff messages,” she’s going to read right through them and be forced to ignore you or put off responding as to not “lead you on.”
Here’s some revolutionary advice: stop with the bull and be honest. You have a much greater chance of making out with her if you’re sincere from the very beginning. Women like men who know what they want and go after it. Even if she turns you down, I guarantee she’ll be impressed with your confidence and balls-to-the-wall approach, so much so that she might even reconsider.
I honestly don’t think twice about guys who stumble over lame attempts to hang out with me, but I certainly remember the instances where a guy with a mission b-lined it through a crowded bar, told me he thought I was pretty, and asked for my number. Nine times out of ten I’ll say no, but this kind of ambition and strive are super sexy. And if he was persistent and super hilarious, chances are I’d give it up eventually.
I totally get it now. I now understand why iPhone users seem to look down upon non-iPhone users. I just switched from a blackberry to an iPhone last week (thanks to Verizon) and within 24 hours I felt superior to blackberry users. I mean seriously, what other phone can make your friends fat (iFatFace), turn regular movies into black and white, 1920′s films (8mm), and allow you to video chat with your best friend across the country? No other phone, that’s who.If you’re thinking about making the switch, you’re probably concerned about 1 of 3 things:
1. Not having actual keys terrifies you
2. You don’t think you can survive without bbm
3. You’re worried emails won’t be as accessible
Well here’s what I say to that: 1.You’ll get used to typing on the iPhone within 24 hours and you’ll end up liking it more 2. You can not only survive without BBM, but you’ll enjoy the fact that you can now go back to ignoring your friends’ messages without hurting their feelings 3. Emailing on an iPhone is just as easy and fast as emailing on a blackberry.
So there you have it folks. Get an iPhone so you’ll be *hipstimatic like the rest of us.
We all have that friend who seems to clinically be addicted to his or her cell phone. Some are so addicted, it can actually be life threatening at times! Watch this hysterical, satiric video, where our gorgeous friend Courtney (she’s the hot blonde), pokes fun at people who spend too much time typing on their phones.
If you think you or someone you know needs a Text Intervention, please seek help. We all support you. xo
Just because she’s texting you back, doesn’t mean she likes you. Sometimes girls respond simply to be nice. Here are 5 signs that you’ve got a non-committer on your hands:
She responds immediately to your conversational texts, but when you ask her out, she takes forever to get back to you.
She responds to your text when you ask her out, but she doesn’t answer your question.
She says yes, but tells you to text her next week to set a date/time.
You are always the one initiating conversation and she is always the one to end it.
You text her during daylight hours and she only responds to you after 10pm. (That’s right. Guys aren’t the only ones guilty of this.)
If the girl you’re after does any of these 5 things, proceed with caution. You’ve been warned.
We asked our 170,000 facebook fans, “How many text messages do you send in a day on average?” In about two minutes, we had over 140 responses. Their responses were shocking. See what they had to say below:
