With all the rejoicing and mistletoeing going around, the holiday season has really become a time to reflect on the past year and with that past flings. The holidays are a great excuse to shoot a flirtext to past cuties that you’d like to reconnect and possibly catch up with in 2010. Its also just thoughtful and kind to shoot someone a text to let them know you’re thinking of them and to wish them a happy healthy ahead. It’ll make you feel good to make these re-connections. So whip out that phone, go through your address book and see what everyone’s up to. Don’t be surprised if you land a few dates in the new year. Afterall the new year is a new start, so start it off right with a flirtext!

Happy New Year flirtexters!

Deb n Liv

Facebook, text, IM, BBM, phone call, pin. With so many different ways to *communidate today it’s a puzzle trying to figure out which outlet to use and where to draw the line. This definitely is the biggest challenge facing the dating world today. How do we keep ourselves mysterious if we continue to be front page news feed fodder?

I find myself guilty of wanting to write something funny on a crush’s Facebook wall, then comment on his picture, BBM him for plans later, and email him a funny link I just received. Knowing what I know about guys liking a little mystery around a girl and the fact that they love a chase, I am aware that doing all of these at once is social suicide.

The trick is to remember that it’s all a balancing act. Be mindful that if you saturate the communication lines early on, your love connection will burn out quicker than you can text “game over”.  The key is to restrain our ‘reach outs’ and remember that less is more. Choose the best medium by questioning your options: Is the email link funnier than the Facebook comment you were just going to post? And so on and so forth. Choose one and stick to it.  This will make you approachable while holding onto your precious mystery.

TTYL,

Olivia

*Communi-dating: How we date through our various forms of digital and wireless communication, i.e., text, BBM, e-mail, phone, Facebook, Match.com, etc.

Dear Tiger,

In honor of you, and the recent media attention you have brought to the grey area of texting and cheating, I have invented a new word: Infidelitexting. ‘Flirtexting,’ while in a committed relationship with someone other than your significant other, IS considered cheating.

You, Mr. Woods, are the poster child for infidelitexting. I don’t know the total number of infidelitexts you’ve sent or how many girls you’ve infildelitexted- nor do I care- but what I do know is why you thought you would get away with it.

In your head you probably rationalized that because it’s ‘just a text’ it wouldn’t mean as much. It’s not like you were calling, exchanging flirty emails, or meeting up. This, my shady friend, is where you are wrong. You see, it starts with a text.

It starts with a text that leads to an email which leads to a call that leads to a get together and next thing you know, you’ve crashed your SUV into a tree and lost all your corporate sponsors.

The same rule of thumb applies when infidelitexting as with sexting: assume that whatever you send will eventually fall into the wrong hands. Therefore never send a text that would hurt the feelings of your significant other if they happen to see it by accident (or if they happen to steal your phone while you are in the shower and look through your text log.)

So to recap Tiger, (in case your phone was buzzing and you didn’t get the message): Infidelitexting. It’s wrong. It’s hurtful. It’s cheating.

Forget what Nike told you and just don’t do it.

Best,

Debra

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Debra and Olivia will be back on the Tyra Banks Show today!  If you missed Flirtexting’s Tyra debut last month, tune in TODAY, Tuesday, December 8th at 4pm, to watch authors Debra and Olivia teach Tyra and her audience the Golden Rules of Flirtexting!

Because the more you know, the better you flirtext!