#5 (The FINAL Step) - OBSERVE FROM THE SKYBOX

Be interested, not interesting. Take the seat of a fan while in her presence by getting to know her instead of telling her all about you. An OYLG doesn’t want to hear you revel about your accomplishments and achievements. She’d rather find all that out on her own. Be humble, be genuine, and be conscious of her needs and time.

Lastly, always remember that “actions speak louder than words.” When you say you’re going call, call. If you tell her you’ll text after the game, then text her after the game. Make sure to follow through on what you say you’re going to do and that your actions are always in-line with your intentions. 

Use all 5 plays we’ve listed out over the past week and watch as a girl who was once Out of Your League, becomes your #1 Fan!!

Step #4- HAVE A TRICK PLAY IN YOUR POCKET

It’s time to make plans for a date with your dream girl so you start mapping out things to do that are sure to impress a lady of her stature. Thinking dinner at a fancy restaurant then drinks at a trendy new bar? Think again. She’s already been.

Taking her to ‘hot spot’ for dinner or a drink may be hip, but it isn’t original. In-order to score out of your league girl, you must go beyond the average “dinner and a movie” date and take it to the next level.  One suggestion- make your date old-school. Watch a movie in the park, take her to your younger brother’s little league game, or hit up the bowling alley. Let her in on your world instead of trying to impress her in what you think is hers.  Added bonus: Shared experiences help build faster bonds.

Tune in tomorrow for the FINAL play in the 5 steps to getting an Out of Your League Girl to go out with you!!

STEP 3: DRIVE TO THE HOOP AND SCORE

You’ve piqued her interest, so now you need to seal the deal by getting her to go out with you. An OYLG is busy and has lots going on, so you’re going to need a flawless play to get her to say yes. Here are two easy ways to set up a scoring opportunity:

1. If there’s an opportunity for you to ask her out within your initial first meeting, then take it and shoot. For example, if she brings up a movie she’s been dying to see or a restaurant she’s been eager to try, ask her right then if you can take her! Use this opportunity to make definite plans for something you already know she wants to do. Instead of saying “we should go there sometime” say “I haven’t been either and heard great things, let’s go Saturday!” Act on any such opportunity that can create another chance for you to meet again.
2. Do something outlandish that’s sure to create more opportunity for her to say yes. If she told you she never has time for breakfast, send a bagel and coffee to her office, with a note that says, “Rumor has it breakfast is the most important meal of the day.” OR If you guys were talking about a band you both like, gift her their newest song via iTunes. All you need is her email.

Tune in tomorrow to find out step #4 in the 5 steps to getting a girl who is Out of Your League to go out with you!

#2: GO FROM SPUD WEBB TO SHAQ. 

Stand out and get noticed. Use that confidence to position yourself in the room to be the guy that everyone wants to get-to-know. In a more precise sense, be like Shaq. Play center court and act like the dominant player. Engage in appealing conversations and make sure that your friends are having a good time. And remember to be genuine in your actions.

If she’s not leaping over bar stools to get to you by now then draw attention to yourself by embodying all of the traits that attract you to her. If she’s laughing a lot start telling jokes. If she’s dancing, dance up a storm. If she’s talking to a guy, talk to a herd of girls. People gravitate towards like-minds. She’ll pick-up what you’re putting out in no time.

Tune in tomorrow to find out what step #3 is, in the 5 steps to getting a girl who is Out of Your League to go out with you!

HOW TO PLAY ONE-ON-ONE WITH AN OYLG

Steps to getting a girl who is Out of Your League to go out with you…spelled out in terms you understand

 1. SWITCH UP YOUR PLAY PATTERN

You need to be prepared and ready for a power play when in the presence of a girl who is out of your league. In-order to do so, you’ve got to be confident (not to be confused with cocky), and know that you have exactly what it is that she needs. The moment you start to believe a woman is out-of-your-league, she instantly becomes out-of-your-league, so change the way you think about her. Live by Descartes’ credo: “I think, therefore I am.”

Try these simple tips:

(1)   Relieve the pressure by keeping busy. Strive to better at your job, continue learning, date other girls, be passionate about something (i.e. golf, your job, your nephew, pingpong, etc).

(2)   Combine metaphysical thinking with physical movement. Recite affirmations at the gym; every time you lift weights repeat to yourself “She digs me.” Believe in the power of thought and realize thoughts become things. If you think it, she will come.

Tune in tomorrow to find out what step #2 is, in the 5 steps to getting a girl who is Out of Your League to go out with you!

Steps to getting a girl who is Out of Your League to go out with you…spelled out in terms guys understand

Out-of-Your-League Girls by definition are confident, know what they want and have lots of people vying for their attention. They aren’t easily impressed by average attempts to gain their affection and thereby pose a challenge to guys, which they happen love. Fellas, OYLG’s have gone out with guys richer than you, better looking than you, and who have bigger (fill in the blank) than you. Therefore, when trying to date an OYLG, you must be confident in yourself at all times in-order to stand a chance against opposing players.

We know that dating a girl who is out of your league isn’t an easy task, so we’ve compiled a list of simple plays that will have these hard to catch girls batting for your team in no time!

Check in tomorrow for the first move in this 5 stage playbook: How to Play One-On-One With a Girl Who is Out of Your League!

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There has been a lot of hype recently about sexting and adults. We have always said that sexting is meant for two mature adults who are in a committed relationship. This is why we are not shocked to hear that sexting and the over 50 crowd is finally catching on. In fact, we’re thrilled!

Recently AT&T found that 5 times more texts were sent in 2009 compared to 2007, making the numbers rise from 88 billion to 457 billion texts sent!! Now that’s a lot of flirtexts! With baby boomer divorce rates on the rise, there are more adults single and ready to mingle than ever before. If kids are sexting, you know adults are doing it; they’re just not as vocal about it because they’re aware this kind of communication is meant to be special and private.

For the past few years sexting and kids has been in the press mostly because sexting and kids doesn’t mix. People were talking about it because it was causing problems and humiliation among that age group.  No person, adult or child, should have to handle the backlash of a naked photo getting released into the digital universe. But if you’re a teenager and sexting, more often than not, that’s exactly what will happen. That is why we stress that sexting only occur between adults, as they are better prepared to handle the consequences if a provocative photo of them gets leaked. 

Nonetheless, we are glad that adults are finally speaking out about the controversial topic of sexting. We are happy they are finally acknowledging that it’s happening and hope they can act as a positive example to their kids who might not fully understand the consequences of engaging in this adult activity.  Once everyone is aware of the rules and regulations pertaining to this new-age way of flirting (aka; when done correctly), the stress is OFF for the fun to be ON!

Please Flirtext Responsibly,

Xx

** Assume the dangers of sexting before you partake in it and proceed with caution.

The first flirtext you send is the most important text you will ever send to a potential boyfriend/girlfriend. Your initial flirtext should be funny, flirty, and it’s number one purpse, is to re-establish the connection.

Truth be told we may not remember meeting you and exchanging numbers. (Blame it on the darkness of the venue or the three tequila shots.) Therefore your initial flirtext should refer to something that the two of you discussed during your face-to-face meeting. This creates an instant connection that will make her feel comfortable and interested in entertaining your texts to see where they might lead. It could be a topic you discussed, the place where you met, or a memorable moment of  the night.

Establishing a connection is especially important in instances where she doesn’t have your phone number. By refereeing to something that happened, she’s sure to remember who you are when an unknown number appears in her text log. Example: If upon meeting, you discussed how everywhere you turn people are going ‘Green’, you could text, “Inspired by our conversation I recycled the beer bottles from last night. Just trying to do my part to keep our planet safe for the future of our children.”

Rest assured this will remind her of who you are and make her giggle with excitement as she flitexts you back.

Have you ever sent or received an initial flirtext that left a lasting impression? Post it in our comments below!

When most people think of sexting, they think of naked photos and dirty text messages. That’s actually NOT the definition of sexting.

The definition of Sexting is the act of sending suggestive flirtexts, that are bold, blunt and flirty, to spice up an existing, committed relationship between two mature adults (flirtexting, pg. 135).

No where in that definition does it say sexts are restricted to naked photos, nor does it even suggest it. There are so many dangers related to releasing a naked photo into the digital wild that it’s usually not worth it.

Some FUN Ways to Sext:
A sext can be as simple as writing to your partner what you want to do when you see him later, or telling him what you plan on wearing later that night. Is your beau out of town? Text that you’re all alone in your big bed and have him suggest something for you to do. Inclined to send a sexy photo? Send him a picture of the Victoria Secret bag where you just bought some lingerie from, and write, “Bought you a present. See you at 8.” Guaranteed that image alone will have him at your doorstep at 7:45  bearing gifts.

Nothing is going to happen if you refuse to take it all off for a sext, except for maybe gaining more respect from the person asking for it. We’ve asked many guys to tell us why they want naked photos from us, and most say they do it as a test to see if the girl will comply. If she does, they typically write her off as a girl not fit to take home to mom, share the pictures to their friends, and move on to the next. We suggest doing it the old fashioned way by leaving some mystery around yourself, so that your beau has to work a little bit to earn your affection and trust. Send a naked text and what does he need to butter you up for? He just got what he needed.

Please Sext Responsibly,

Flirtexting

** Assume the dangers of sexting before you partake in it and proceed with caution.