Guilty. We’ve all done it and afterwards think we’ve never been better. The charge? A verifiable case of the “I’m so over you, this is the last time we’re hooking up,” high. This is essentially false hope.  This false hope stems off a high we get after we hookup with the guy we’re trying to walk away from. We think we’re done after that last hookup and then crave him back when we don’t hear from him or realize that we just weren’t quite ready to cut things off.

I just got the false hope call the other day from a girlfriend. She called me the day after her rendezvous. “Yeah, I feel totally over him. He just will never be ready and I’m over waiting for him,” she told me excitedly. Pan to two days later when Mr. Wrong doesn’t call or text her.  She looses her cool and wants his attention again. And so the cycle begins.

“For real this time,” she swears as she calls me the next morning from a cab coming from his apartment. This was attempt number three of her walking away.

The last time hookup high lasts about a good 24 hours and starts to really ween into 48 hours when there’s been little or no contact from the guy. The cure: don’t go in expecting that the last hookup is going to give you closure.  In fact, it does the complete opposite: accelerates your desires.  It’s super important to recognize that you’re “enough is enough” ‘tude post hookup will die tomorrow. You will probably be loosing your cool and acting out by then ie) erratic text messages and facebook stalking, so setup realistic expectations for yourself.  Perhaps avoid going cold turkey and just start distancing yourself in baby steps.  Head high.  Dignity intact.

Love. love.

Oliv