We all know that dating and bbm do not go together. We’ve talked about when it’s appropriate to exchange bbm pins and when it’s not. But what happens when you do exchange pins with a person you are dating and then stop dating that person?

If you delete him from your bbm list then you are giving away power. We all know that when an ex suddenly appears missing from a bmm or facebook list, it was because you were hurt or upset by the situation, and seeing their name on any friend list is too much to handle.

It’s tough sometimes to have an ex on bbm because bbm allows people to be even more accessible than text (if you can believe). Plus, it gets annoying knowing the whereabouts of an ex at every moment when he’s constantly updating his status next to his name: Adam – Skiing!

Something that has helped me that you might not know about is that you are able to make categories out of your bbm friend list. So instead of having all 30 friends in one long bbm thread, you can categorize them in any way you like! For instance, my categories for some time, were: BFF’s, Buddies, and Boys. This is extremely useful when your ex, Adam, who once showed up first on your bbm list, now shows up last because you categorized him under “x”.

When I want to delete someone but don’t want to give up the power, this is my go to move. By doing this, I am able to temporarily hide their name from myself, until I am ready to either add him back to my normal list of friends (whom I don’t have feelings for), or until it’s been long enough to delete him from my list without him noticing or caring.

Another option is to manually change his bbm name to something like “Jerk” or “what was I thinking”. This is always a surefire way to restrain yourself from reaching out to him or answering him when he reaches out to you.

Happy BBM’ing!

Deb