“Because it helps me distinguish the desperate from the not desperate girls. Response time says a lot about a person.”—Josh (a flirtexting hottie)

Imagine this secenerio:

“You just received a flirtext from your crush. You’re stoked because you’ve been thinking about him all day and were wondering if he was doing the same. The minute you receive his text you begin writing the first response that comes to mind . . . and then press send. Five, ten, thirty minutes go by and he still hasn’t written back. You begin to F-L-I-P out and are certain his silence is due in part to your lame, impulsive text. You can’t believe you wrote back, “Stop it! That’s soooo hilarious Pete!”

In the quiet meantime, you start driving yourself crazy coming up with a half dozen better flirtexts which you are certain would have elicited a faster response. You swear to yourself that when and if he finally writes back, you’ll be more patient with your next response to ensure the LOL you so rightfully deserve. Or at the very least, a timely response.” (Flirtexting: How to Text Your Way Into His Heart)

Rule number one if successful flirtexting:

1. Never text the first thing that comes to mind!

Be patient and calm. Disaster strikes when you send a flirtext before it’s primed and ready to go! Even if the hottest guy in school just sent you a flirtext, and you know he has football practice in two minutes, you still need to WAIT! Not only will it make you look more desirable (i.e., it shows you’re not sitting around, twirling you hair, waiting to respond immediately to all his flirtexts,) but it could save you from huge embarrassment! When we are excited and overcome with emotion is when tend to make the most mistakes when sending texts.  Sending the response, “I would love to go to the fart party with you!” when you meant to say “I would love to go to the frat party with you!” could make or break your date! Proof read all your flirtexts before sending and wait a little while before pressing send. For more tips on ways to create the best possible text and when exactly to press send, check out our book Flirtexting, in stores now.