Being confident in your text is one of the most important things to remember when Flirtexting with a crush.  

What is an example of a confident text that worked for you in the past?

What games do you play that work like a charm everytime?

I was having a conversation the other day with one of my girlfriends, about how in theory, if I knew any of my boyfriend’s ex’s, it’s not out of the question that I would become friends with them. At first, the thought of this grossed me out, but once I let it process a bit longer, it began to make sense.

To get a better grasp on the idea, I turned the tables and thought about it from my perspective. I’ve had about five serious boyfriends in the past, each of whom shared most of the same great qualities. If I invited them all to a dinner party and didn’t explain what their connection was, I guarantee you they’d be quoting Will Farrell movies and exchanging fist bumps by dessert.

To prove my theory even further, my friend Charlie confirmed this with a story. Charlie told me about this girl he dated a few months back that he really liked. They ended up breaking up because she was still in love with her ex-boyfriend, Joe. Shortly after that, Charlie started dating another girl. Then at dinner one night with this new girl, he found out that she too used to date, and was still hung up on, Joe! Charlie was not so lucky in love, but ended up meeting Joe a few months later and bonded over their ironic affection connection. They are now best buds (and currently both single).

Now I’m not saying I’m about to send out Facebook friend requests to everyone my boyfriend or my ex-boyfriends used to date, that would be ridiculous. But what I am saying is if I happen to cross paths with one of them while I’m out and about, it wouldn’t be out of the question if we bonded over a cup of joe. And hey, if she’s single, I’d probably be able to set her up with one of my ex’s. I already know she’d like them.

Have you ever become friends with a boyfriend’s EX?

I am a blackberry user. My boyfriend is an iPhone user. Although I care about him a lot, I feel like this cellular divide causes more problems than it should. 

We’ve had numerous debates over which phone is better, however they always end the same way. Like most Mac users I know, my boyfriend’s point of view is one-sided when it comes to this topic. His argument is always something like, “You can’t compare the two. Macs are so far superior to anything else on the planet that this argument is superfluous.” Sooo annoying. 

One of the major causing factors for this cellular divide is BBM.  The fact that my boyfriend is the only person I communicate with on a daily basis that ISN’T on my BBM list, irritates me. I know it shouldn’t, but it does. The other issue is the fact that his iPhone has way better internet reception than my blackberry does. So anytime we’re out and something needs to be looked up, he’s on the case before I can even take the password protector off my phone. I like to win at everything, so not being able to get this information as quickly, is why that bothers me. 

The truth is, I’m a PC girl and I always have been. My blackberry is like an extension of my PC. I’m used to it, I can rely on it, and it has everything I need. Sure I’ve worked on Macs before, many times in-fact, but I still remain loyal to my PC and I’m damn proud of it. 

So here’s what up Apple advocates, listen up and listen good. Using a PC and having a blackberry doesn’t make me any less cool than you, nor does it make me any less creative. We’re playing for different teams in a digital world that should be connecting us. Sure it sucks at times, but at the end of the day, we’re all fighting for the same thing anyways; better reception. Now can we all please at least try to get along? 

Peace. Love. Blackberry. 

Deb  

-”Hey honey, here’s my card. Give me a call sometime (wink).”

Don’t give a girl your business card and expect her to call.

Guys, just so you know, our moms told us to never call you first. So when you give us your card and don’t ask for our number, take that as a sign that you won’t be hearing from us ever again.

Oh, and especially don’t expect a call if your headshot is posted to your business card (like it was to the one I was given a couple of weeks ago). That one gave me and my girlfriends quite the laugh! (Hahaaa, ohhh me.)

Ladies, what other golden rules of dating did your mom’s teach you?

My 17 sister is going through an identity crisis and needs help. She has two persona’s: the one she displays on social networking sites like MySpace and Facebook, and the one she exhibits in her daily life around her family and at school.

Who she is in real life and how she displays herself on the Internet is worlds apart. In person, she’s soft-spoken, polite and barely speaks when others are around. Meanwhile her social media profiles scream sexy, fast-paced, loud mouthed-girl, looking for attention. She uses acronyms like “fml” (f*ck my life) to update her FB status and post photos of herself in racy clothing with puckered lips and heavy makeup.

She seems to be acting out through the Internet in ways she never would in person and it’s becoming a problem! Why is she doing this and how can I get her to see the light?

Solution:

Since your sister is shy in person, she is definitely using her on-line profile as a way to let loose  and rebel. This is normal in adolescent teens but should be addressed by adults so that it doesn’t get out of hand.

First, sit her down and explain the dangers of what she’s doing. Let her know she can get in trouble with her school, or even the law, for posting inappropriate photos and saying contemptible things. Inform her that colleges and employers both look at social networking profiles to see how potential students and employees present themselves on-line. And remind her that posting explicit photos makes her an easy target for online predators. All of these are very real, very scary realities.

It’s also likely she’s posting sexy photos of herself to gain the attention of a certain guy she likes. As her older, more knowledgeable sister, let her know that when it comes to guys, “less is more.” Explain that guys typically become less interested in girls who exposes too much too soon. Tell her that leaving a little mystery makes people want to get to know you more, so her shy-by-nature attitude, will actually help her in this case.

Lastly, try to work with her on opening up more in-person versus online. Remind her that she’s beautiful no matter what. If her end goal is to get more attention, then suggest a fun make-over and give her some social skills advice. (As a younger sister myself, I’ve always appreciated tips about love and life from my big sis…when it’s done in a constructive, non-threatenng manner.) Social networks should be used to catch-up with friends about your life, it is not meant for someone to create a new one. If things don’t get better, have her seek professional help.